okay listen up. Talking shit about yourself is fucking useless and isn’t healthy. Self deprecation is a horrible, addictive drug that is toxic to your mental stability. Sure seeing the negative sides of yourself is useful and allows you to see what you need to change in your life
But there is a difference between wanting to have healthy change and destroying yourself from the inside.
now clarification I’m talking about when people are so afraid of themselves they attack their identity, like if they draw something they talk about how much they hate it, they’re not attractive, they refuse to accept compliments, etc. This is something that we all have an element of, but it’s especially prelevent here online and it’s fucking ridiculous and people need to stop.
It’s hard to be able to like yourself, trust me I know, and I’m not saying people have to jump off a cliff and achieve total confidence in one fell swoop. No, leave the eagle eggs behind
I’m saying if you are one of those people that always talks shit about yourself, who is a total fucking IDIOT and refuses to even THINK for five minutes you deserve a bit of happiness and maybe, oh wow imagine this, a moment of praise because you have some insidious concept deep in your brain that your worthless or gross or whatever, you need to stop.
You need to STOP because guess what, no one cares that you hate yourself. People want to help you see the truth, that you’re actually a pretty cool person that does cool things, but really the last thing they want to hear is you go on about how much you hate yourself because you’re some shitbag that fucks everything up.
That’s a pretty big insult to people around you, right? “Hey dude, you’re cool” “NO IM NOT SHUT UP NO NONONO”
Because self-depreciation is basically masturbation. You’re getting off to your own self-flagellation. And you know what needs to happen? You need to start TRYING TO GET BETTER.
No this isn’t nice, I’m telling you you’re fucking up, and this isn’t a post saying you’re a special tiny plant life in some bullshit forest and all flowers are sad creatures that need kisses.
Like it’s okay to be some leaf or whatever, that’s totally cool. whatever you find comfort in is really powerful and it’s really important! But it’s not healthy to swamp your mind and your life with negative and false concepts about yourself. You’re not just a sad flower, you’re a sad flower that’s going to get shit done because you can fucking do anything you want.
TRY to fucking do good things. TRY to do what’s right. Fucking DO THINGS that you know are good for you, but people rarely do this because it eliminates the excuse that they’re shitty. So fuck that and DO THINGS THAT ARE HEALTHY AND POSITIVE
Like if you have social anxiety (which we all have, btw, whether it’s a bit less or more than your neighbor is irrelevant) you can’t get rid of it, but you can take steps to coping. You can start small and talk to people, buy things, talk on the phone, walk in public and feel more comfortable than you did when you started.
The same is with hating yourself. You can stop the cycle of destruction by surrounding yourself with love and positivity rather than killing yourself every day. It fucking breaks my heart seeing people here who are so wonderful and are digging themselves in ditches because they refuse to try and see the world from a different perspective.
It won’t fix everything, and remember human beings are complicated creatures that are fucked up and weird and have a million and two neurosis, but every single one of us are capable of getting up and doing fucking incredible things that are so, so, SO important.
So I’m saying start trying to love you. It’s scary, it’s uncomfortable, it’s really shitty, but you are worth it and you can do it. I believe in you and your potential to stand tall one day and find pride in yourself.
- DONT say you hate yourself. DO say you like your eyes.
- DONT tell people you’re sorry for trying to talk to them. DO say you’re excited to say hi
- DONT talk shit about your abilities or skills. DO compliment others
- DONT shut people down when they say nice things about you. DO just accept it and thank them and believe in what they’re saying
- DONT hurt yourself out of frustration, whether physical or mentally. DO take those feelings and write them down or take it out on a pillow or something.
- DONT give up. DO keep going